This was on the Valhalla wrestling forum and thought it was so good I wanted to share with others. This mirrors what a lot of dads think about their sons and maybe not able to put it into words as well as this piece. Enjoy.
I worry that you are doing battle while unprepared and that I have failed in your preparation. As a father that is my greatest fear, that you are unprepared to face the challenges that will come before you. I want you to be prepared for your match, but Iíve come to realize that it is the matches themselves that, are in the long run, win or lose, the things that ARE preparing you.
I think that the greatest benefit from wrestling is learning to face challenges and to demand the most from yourself. You learn to fight when you think there is no more fight left within you. You learn to get up after youíve fallen, time and time again. You learn about sacrifice and about pain. You learn to endure and to overcome. This is what I want for you, not because I wrestled, but because these lessons are the true gifts of this sport. So, those losses today were actually part of this gift, and an important part of the journey.
My dream for you is to not just win championships and fill your room with medals. My dream for you is much greater and I hope you get much more from wrestling. I hope you learn to strive for greatness even if you fail in the attempt. I hope you learn to get up one more time when you think you canít get up any longer. I hope you learn to not only face your fears, but to stare them down.
Wrestling isnít about winning. It is about the desire to win. It isnít about success, but rather the determination to succeed. I want you to succeed as a wrestler, not to win state championships, but I want you to be a successful wrestler so you learn to be all that you can. This sport can help teach you that, if you let it. I look forward to the seasons of our future as you go through these lessons and Iíll be in your corner for each and every one of them. I love you.
This is awesome! I will share with my wrestling parents and words I will walk by as well. Thanks for sharing.
Last edited by Piranhas; 03-16-2012 at 07:56 AM.
Sounds like a dad that gets it! After coaching close to 20 years I finally get it as a dad too. I also understand and respect my dad more now too. Watching my own son wrestle is gut wrenching and no fun even though he is above average and a CIF placer this year as a Junior. There is not a more helpless feeling in the world than watching your boy get beat up and there is nothing you can do about it. I also wonder if I failed him by not letting him wrestle til high school?. I don't think so---the things he learned from baseball, football, soccer, basketball, dance, drama and boy scouts are equally as important in his development to becoming a fine young man.
RIP Mt. Whitney
Thanks, I pinched this for our website.